In order to do this, I think the fundamental thing is that wifey needs to be educated herself.
My bx came with here with just a high school diploma. Luckily for me, she had the sense to see the costs of living here and I kept sharing with her the way to move forward in society, that is through education. I am happy to see that she is nearing the end of her Bachelor degree in Accountancy. Going through the process of studying herself, she values the opportunities and the importance of it. She has said that we should save money for kids education next time and should cut down unnecessary expenses.
Through this, when we have kids in the future, We already have a contract and understanding that our kids will have to be educated in the 2 main languages of Chinese and English. (I shot down the idea of her mum coming to take care of the kids)
What i want to share is that it takes a lot of patience and communication with them, planning a future with them with goals to achieve. Make ourselves different from the Vn man who just think of the present.
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Originally Posted by SingViet
I think you didn't get the interpretation correctly.
My main message is
- `get a roof over the head for family' instead of spending the money on holidays and building houses for wife's relatives in the province.
- educate the children by ourselves, don't depend on MIL, who has no idea of educating kids.
As for others who are fast to stamp me out, please read carefully what i wrote. Educating children is not as easy as most of us think it is. When our children get to P4 onwards, most of us cannot understand the syllabus at all. Maths is so different from what we has last time. So before you start to `stamp me out quickly', wait till your children reach upper primary, then you come tell me about it. |