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Originally Posted by TheSauce
As above,
she forget to logout her gmail on my computer and i curious,
seen the chat log.
feeling hurt now.
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the mind say wait. but e body say differently n fell aslp.
u must hv tot y I agreed to let u nt wearing condom. firstly I really tot hotel gt provide. lets y I hv been asking ehh hotel really no hv? n since dun hv. I say ok cus I trust u.
I think u also noe I hv been wanting to make love with you. wads stopping me is really cus I noe its wrong but in fact its true in a sense we really alr emotionally wrong n we alr so close and intimate b4 which is no much diff from mking love le.
mking love with you I feel happy and being love n i feel very confortable.
I mk love to you. u say u will be mentally stressed. I noe how u feel. cus u can't promise me anything n we went this way. u think I really at e losing end n scared I will feel more hurt if we really nv end up tgth.
I do agree with that. but Im really ok. I tell myself to ve firm le. I dun wan to see myself to b sad n hurt too. so I mk myself clear that this is wad I chose myself. n from e start I noe u r nt mine. I shouldn't put too much hope in you. I noe ur heart is mine n like I told u.. its really simpleif you put away all e external factors.
I think as long 1 day u still love me, anything can happen. I really m positive one. but on n off I reallly really scared n hv no confidence myself n u will chg heart n love ur gf again. that really to me is end of e story. n I will hv to walk away from your life le.
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Like most Bros just said, negative emotions come in first. Sad, upset, angry, furious.
You sit down and think what do you want out from this fiancé and what can she provide in return.
Slowly you weight the pros and cons.
Once you sort out and the pros are more than cons, have an open discussion with her in private, never never in public.
tell her that going to marriage axial require both to be have no secret to make it last. Then ask her if she is hiding any secrets.
If she tell, then find out on the root cause, could it be you causing it etc and try remediate it.
If she did not tell, ask her a couple more times. If still refuse, just be gracious and say that this will be the thing you found out and see her reaction.
Remember, never never use violent or hated words, this will escalate into big fights. I lose my previous gf while in discussion on engagement terms. I became agitated and I lost her permanently. (Nothing is wrong, just a big quarrel).
You are the one who can decide. Should you let go, cause she bound to cheat on you again. Should you not let go and what are the justifications for doing so?
It is common to cheat but something is cooking if the person intend to hide from you.