[Overwatch]

Principles
The search for love is inherent within us mortal beings. Maybe you’re flinching when I say “love” in this very forum. To put it in a more mortal way, the search for a fellow being who can understand us. Understanding someone comes in many forms, such as knowing what they do, how they do what they do, and of course, why they do what they do; this seems easy. But how many people feel understood in this day and age of fleeting attention spans? Even if someone makes a conscientious effort to understand another, the receiving party may not “get” it; the effort becomes futile.

Most human’s inability to not understand another is because most people cannot understand that two sides of a coin exist. When we take a stand, we see the other side as someone who does not belong. Hence, we get along those whom we vibe with only. There’s nothing wrong with that, but if you want to bed someone “out of your league” (so to speak), then this paragraph would probably help you out a lot.

I can babble on and forever about the point of understanding and being understood, but it is really because that’s the crux of it all (in my humble opinion). Once you grasp this concept (and apply it, duh), you’ll go a long way in any domain of life. Understanding a sentient being is tough to most, and feeling understood to most people is equally (or if not more) tough. This is why it’s so rewarding to those who get it.

Understanding someone and making them feel understood does not have to involve strenuous effort on any one’s end. You can easily kill two birds with one stone. Say the right things (or rather, ask the right questions), and the other person will feel like you’re an old friend in barely a few hours. What do old friends do? They do things that only the closest to them get to do.

Remember what I say about asking the (right) questions? Most people don’t feel heard, and are more than happy to air their grievance of the day, even if it’s nothing more than a fleeting thought that gradually piled into a volcanic complaint mass capable of eruption anytime. It’s easy to do, and most people will slowly pull back their mask the moment they find someone who’s trying to understand them.

Not much time on my hands today, more of thinking of the foundations. TLDR: There’s nothing fundamentally difficult about “the process”. Humans want to feel understood, and understanding others doesn’t require rocket science. For the latter, sufficient practice and patience would mean it’s as easy as abc.