[jamezwit]

Bro WB and other sifus have contributed a lot of knowledge and info here. Here is a brief sitrep of my BY experience.

After chionging KTVs, WLs from forums, and legal houses, I realised that I'm a know a person before sex (in fact, I prefer the term making love) type.

So I started to look at those Woman Looking for Men type of ad posts, but these are few and far in between, either they give terms and conditions (who is the person who has the need and means har?) or they don't reply (I found out later that girls generally look at those Men Looking for Women ads rather than the other way around). So I posted a few ads, say some of my general terms and with preference for PRC students, and started on the journey to find exclusive baoyee GFs.

So far, I've had 5 baoyees, 1 from SG, 1 from MY, and 3 from PRCs. Interestingly, three of them are students (the SG, MY, and 1 PRC) while two are working professionals (really executive in real company that I pick up from their office more than a few times). All between 21-22 yo, except one.

During initial meet up to know each other sessions, I usually start with hand holding and short kisses first couple of times when go out for dinner or movie. I confirm the baoying by saying that they need to get their place so that we can meet discreetly. Even then, only heavy petting but no sex, and once they get more comfortable, after the first love making session, hug and don't let go and they won't let go as well if you really show that you care about them.

I'm direct with them as far as possible. I tell them they can ask whatever question and those I can answer I'll tell them. Then you will be in a comfortable r/s and only if they're too sticky, I'll just tell them straight or let it cool off for a week or two without meeting. They sometimes ask about my previous BY, but only to ascertain that they are prettier (I also don't know why being prettier is the one important thing they must ask ;-) )

My BYs don't ask too much $$, some of them only ask to cover for lodging (a master room in a condo, although one had a common room but few other tenants and all work late so less people around the unit), others ask for room+allowance which I tell them upfront my limit of giving, they usually agree with it since they are not really desperate, or $$ is not the only reason. One of them even still have money support from home but of course I don't live off it, I supplement her school fees plus lodging.

So far, I only dropped the MY BY real fast becos she was two-timing, she got another BF who is away from SG a lot but she keep sending the guy emails/sms so I found out and dropped her. The rest all quite ok and the relationship last for a while and always parted way amicably and usually because they finished their work permit stay or study.

Only thing is the relationship can be too deep, and they feel lonely and since the way I prefer is to have feelings, so they sticky a bit. But I get great love making after being didn't meet for a few days or a week or two. I think it's win-win in my BY experience so far. Only thing is got to filter a bit and it takes effort and time to read the girl's mind and to show concern. Sometimes just words and a hug they will cry on your shoulder. I'm no handsome man, so I've to double or triple on the attention and the small things, like they appreciate you bring them to good eating place (no need high end stuff) and treating them with respect, since the young BY that can come to study (for real, not the KTV gals) or work as executive are pampered at home from young (one family one child), although they know that they need to adjust living on their own and doing their own household chores, they sometimes just felt lonely and the way younger generation of PRC from city is more open, had sex early and some had relationship with older man already in PRC. It's eye opening talking to them (only after they are comfortable to open up about this part of their life).

Cheers.