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Originally Posted by deptrai4u
Hi Bro,
I just read ur last few post... i hv a few points for ur consideration. Please dun take this as a joke, i am not poking at you, just giving u my frank and honest opinions.
Just my humble opinions.  |
Good morning bro. I won't be offended... everyone is entitled to their own views. But anyway, here's my thoughts too.
#1 Be Realistic, dun judge her
U said that u are unable to support her financially, so she will surely find her better future and bie bie to you, and i think there is perfectly nothing wrong with that! If u put urself in her shoes, would u not do the same??? if u tell me u are that kind of hand-hold-hand and 天长地久 mushy mushy kind and will remain loyal, then i would say u are a stupid fool still living in dream land!
I didn't want to support her bcos I hope she can be independent. So in case I 'up lorry', she can keep herself fed. That's why I paid for her to take up courses to gain employment and self suffice. This is also 1 reason why I didn't go to those village to look for spouse instead.
#2 Dating for 3 years
She already wasted 3 years of her time and u still at dating stage... lets take stock, what do u have to offer her and will promise to offer her in the future? Take stock of what a girl wants in her man and look at urself, what u have??? Money obviously is NOT the only thing that matters here, there are still a few other things that are important such as PERSONALITY/CHARM, POTENTIAL to do greater things in future, and SKILLS in bed as well. Assuming u have none of the above, and another guy who is just as poor as you comes along, but is able to tell her jokes and makes her laugh everyday, she will also bie bie u!
I'm getting my full accounting certification, how not promising is that? Humor, charm, personality and skills are definitely present, if not, how can I even get to date her 3 yrs ago, when there's even more competitors... But perhaps now as compared to those rich heir, I am just a loser.
#3 She said Japanese Customer, pick her up send her to work.. etc etc...
I tell you.. its all Bullshit.. she is just being nice by not making it to harsh for you, just saying things in a way without hurting u too much, but just for u to get the idea. The fact is that it cannot be a Jap guy... a Jap guy will not do things this way one... its very likely another Singapore guy.. and she is already living with him.
This I'm not sure... cos I've met her friend who married a jap guy working for Mitsubishi car company in Hanoi, and perhaps this let her thinks that jap guy is more capable of taking care of her family. I'm a more liberal and less MCP guy. And everytime I called her, she's in her house with her own family. But she said she will have lunch with the jap guy before he send her to work in disco.
#4 Not yet officially say break-off to her family.
You can forget about that as well! Her family has already met the new Mr Roberto and since he is richer and able to shower everyone with gifts, they are more than happy that u have been replaced.
This is just from my side, as a Chinese formality, I think I should at least had a last meal and bid them farewell. Just thinking only...
#5 some bros here suggest u let go and move on
Please look at my point #2 again... if u do not address ur own fundamental short-coming (pun not intended), moving on to another girl would only mean a repeat of what has happened, just a different girl. And its not easy to find another syt who is willing to waste 3 years with u for nothing... at most 3 months and its bie bie!
Thanks, this is sound advice, and I will take good note of it... and it definitely struck me thinking hard over.
#6 Forget about translating whatever bullshit Chinese Poems into Vietnamese
I have seen this before, many silly Singaporean brudders trying to woo VB with all these silly translations. i tell u the effect is really like stroking the fur of the car in the reverse direction. These VB simply do not understand what u trying to say and usually take it the wrong way even or just ignore it totally. We really call this Romancing the cow (if u know what i mean). Imagine some girl send u a message translated from Indian saying "you are my chappati dipped into bah-dam kee and sandwiched between 2 papadums". If u want to say anything to her, say it the Vietnamese way, not any silly translation from some silly chinese phrase that means something to you but nothing to her. One good way is to point to her a popular Vietnamese song that is as popular as the Vietnamese National Anthem and it has all the words that express ur feelings for her, and u tell her that everytime u listen to that song... u think of her and only her. If u unable to do that, then just shut-up. All these stupid translation will achieve nothing and waste money on SMS too!
This is also from my side. I wanna upload on Facebook status cos I find it romantic, nothing more. And we communicate using whatsapp, so it's free of charge btw.