What should i do

[Miki00]

Hi ppl, just asking some qns inside here. I am currently attached to my bf for 2 years. Intimacy, life and overall has been fine, just that recently it became lesser partly due to us not meeting up that often compared to before. I am a lady who is really into intimacy and just felt that I been craving for more nowadays but couldnt quite get enough with my bf.

Recently, I have been getting along pretty closely with a male colleague. It is obvious that he is flirting while chatting with me playfully and I admit i do like his advances and style. We chat basically everyday and at times into more intimate topics. Thing is he is attached and i am also happily attached to my bf, so i felt alittle bad at times when we flirted or meet for dinner after work yet i kind of enjoy his company.

I am just thinking what should i do and if anyone been in this situation like me?

[tsuna7]

Originally Posted by Miki00

Hi ppl, just asking some qns inside here. I am currently attached to my bf for 2 years. Intimacy, life and overall has been fine, just that recently it became lesser partly due to us not meeting up that often compared to before. I am a lady who is really into intimacy and just felt that I been craving for more nowadays but couldnt quite get enough with my bf.

Recently, I have been getting along pretty closely with a male colleague. It is obvious that he is flirting while chatting with me playfully and I admit i do like his advances and style. We chat basically everyday and at times into more intimate topics. Thing is he is attached and i am also happily attached to my bf, so i felt alittle bad at times when we flirted or meet for dinner after work yet i kind of enjoy his company.

I am just thinking what should i do and if anyone been in this situation like me?

stay with ur bf lor.. tat guy use n abuse bah..

[Tronx]

A little advice. Stick to your own bf. Humans are like this they aways need care and love. Try to Control your urge and emotions. Then think about it, put yourself in his shoes what if someone you love cheated you. Is very depressing. In the end, decision is yours. I hope you choose the correct decision.

Good luck☺

[ET]

Find me I'm available

[Hornyong]

Me too, available.

[simply2323]

In this forum, many samsters talked about fb or friends with benefits. Most people craved for company/comfort besides their steady bf/gf/husband/wife even though their partners might be perfect. We just need the different company with different perspectives and listening ears. So if you want this, then have him as a friend with benefits. However, please be careful that he is discrete and also not just a leech that disappear when he got what he wants. Evaluate carefully and try not to be used and thrown away.

[Miki00]

U guys have your points too. I think it's just typical humans to crave for something at times in terms of company, urges and emotion. Not easy to control hor.

I am still feeling in a mess though lol.

[comm]

never do anything physical wad...juz friendzone him loh

[Abcdefghijklmn]

There are only 3 outcomes.

1) get bang and have fun with him
2) get your mind straight and stick with your Boyfriend
3) blacklist by either quarrel with him or leave the company.

Human is the most weird creature in the world.

A Husband confessed to his Wife: every time that we bang, I alway think of other women.

Wife replied: oh, that is okay. When every time i bang with the guys, I alway think of you.

[hugs]

bf for two years and u feeling this way then imho the r/s should end. your heart not settled down yet.

[peanut123]

Stop seeing this other guy. He is flirting with you when he knows you are attached and he already has a gf? He's obviously out to exploit you for some fun. Is that what you want? To be his plaything to use and cast aside? You enjoy his company now, but if you continue, one thing will lead to another and he'll be enjoying your pussy. I guarantee it.

And you will hurt your bf. If you love him, you shouldn't even be considering this. Just tell him your needs. He can't read your mind.

If you don't love him, then leave him, and you can play with other guys all you want. But as long as you are with him, don't.

Originally Posted by Miki00

Hi ppl, just asking some qns inside here. I am currently attached to my bf for 2 years. Intimacy, life and overall has been fine, just that recently it became lesser partly due to us not meeting up that often compared to before. I am a lady who is really into intimacy and just felt that I been craving for more nowadays but couldnt quite get enough with my bf.

Recently, I have been getting along pretty closely with a male colleague. It is obvious that he is flirting while chatting with me playfully and I admit i do like his advances and style. We chat basically everyday and at times into more intimate topics. Thing is he is attached and i am also happily attached to my bf, so i felt alittle bad at times when we flirted or meet for dinner after work yet i kind of enjoy his company.

I am just thinking what should i do and if anyone been in this situation like me?

[computerGuy]

True TS, treasure your bf if you still have feelings for him. Talk to him, meet him more often. Be real or be gone
Dont be cheap and flirt along when obviously your colleague is flirting with you.

Why are the ladies thinking these days..

[joey7]

My advice is talk to him about your need for intimacy and see if it was him who was tired or indifferent for more intimacy with you. What type of intimacy are you lacking of, cuddle, hug, sex, kiss etc?

To keep a healthy relationship, apart from good communications and listening, a big part of the equations which most people seems to love to ignore is, sex in relationship. If you have infrequent, not-enough of them even before you two get married, be prepared for possibility of affairs. These tends to only get worse if you do not sort it out early on when you can.

Do also be aware that, in general, male libido start to drop around 30's while opposite is true for the female. There is also big difference between flirting while in relationship with another male and being in real relationship with that male individual. Wouldn't your male colleagues just assume you will constantly be flirting with some other dude behind him just like you and him been doing before?...

Flirting and affairs tend to happen when one party lacks something they crave from their other half, is it wrong or right? I don't know. Is it avoidable? Probably not, but you can mitigate the chances by having good communications with your other half.

So, back to my first statement, talk to your bf and see if you two can sort things out. If he is the type that are unable to sort things out, first thing you should ask is "Is there any chance of him being able or willing to sort any things out if something happen in our future relationship?".

And, if things are bad in the bedroom, do really consider how far you want to take your relationship further. Intimacy is a big part in relationship, anyone who tells you otherwise are either delusional or lying to you.

[llwh85]

Very good advices here.. Would up you guys if i had points. Well done bros.. Humanity restored!

[Miki00]

Thanks for all the good advices ppl really appreciate that and sorry for the trouble lol.

I think u guys are right in what u say. I will think through properly about this.