Anyone discovered your fiance is cheating on you before?

[TheSauce]

As above,

she forget to logout her gmail on my computer and i curious,

seen the chat log.

feeling hurt now.

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the mind say wait. but e body say differently n fell aslp.
u must hv tot y I agreed to let u nt wearing condom. firstly I really tot hotel gt provide. lets y I hv been asking ehh hotel really no hv? n since dun hv. I say ok cus I trust u.
I think u also noe I hv been wanting to make love with you. wads stopping me is really cus I noe its wrong but in fact its true in a sense we really alr emotionally wrong n we alr so close and intimate b4 which is no much diff from mking love le.
mking love with you I feel happy and being love n i feel very confortable.

I mk love to you. u say u will be mentally stressed. I noe how u feel. cus u can't promise me anything n we went this way. u think I really at e losing end n scared I will feel more hurt if we really nv end up tgth.
I do agree with that. but Im really ok. I tell myself to ve firm le. I dun wan to see myself to b sad n hurt too. so I mk myself clear that this is wad I chose myself. n from e start I noe u r nt mine. I shouldn't put too much hope in you. I noe ur heart is mine n like I told u.. its really simpleif you put away all e external factors.
I think as long 1 day u still love me, anything can happen. I really m positive one. but on n off I reallly really scared n hv no confidence myself n u will chg heart n love ur gf again. that really to me is end of e story. n I will hv to walk away from your life le.

[MnlBkk]

Sorry to hear that.

Felt that she is not the one for you.

Short term pain is better than long term pain

[IceSpearz]

omg TS wat u waiting for... call off the engagement.. its clear her heart belongs to someone else... even better... expose her to her family... rather than u call off the engagement and become the bad guy....

[Starter]

Have a good Chat with her and let her knows that you know about it, whether to call off or not is up to you .

but like that abit pointless liaoz,

P.S. It is easy to forgive, but to forget that will be the hard part.

[hugs]

Originally Posted by IceSpearz

omg TS wat u waiting for... call off the engagement.. its clear her heart belongs to someone else... even better... expose her to her family... rather than u call off the engagement and become the bad guy....

Ts, do exactly what IceSpearz said. No need to look back over the memories of yesterday's anymore. It is gone. Her mind is gone.

[hugs]

Originally Posted by Starter

Have a good Chat with her and let her knows that you know about it, whether to call off or not is up to you .

but like that abit pointless liaoz,

P.S. It is easy to forgive, but to forget that will be the hard part.

Still talk for what? So that in future he wears a green hat ah? She is gone, so holding her back with engagement is just waiting for affairs to happen in future.

[Starter]

Originally Posted by hugs

Still talk for what? So that in future he wears a green hat ah? She is gone, so holding her back with engagement is just waiting for affairs to happen in future.

My meaning of talk is to close this matter properly as have a good talk and end it, so just walk away no talk ah?

ok I shall not comment since the GREAT hugs is here, Cheers.

[hugs]

Originally Posted by Starter

My meaning of talk is to close this matter properly as have a good talk and end it, so just walk away no talk ah?

Orh..ya having closure is good.

[10inch]

Agree with the Bro's here.

Initial reaction will always be to hold on and try.
But there's a reason why a lot of the bro's here will tell you just to walk away.

Once the mind and heart has strayed for a gal, there's no point in trying to hold on. Cut it short and walk away. There will be others.

[GrieGzEters]

Well, talk to her to see what's the problem be it for a closure or improve the relationship. It always take 2 hands to clap. This is really a fuck up situation to be in, I once saw the SMS and Friendster messages of my ex gf between her n some guys and I was totally shaken at that moment. From then on, I come to the conclusion that if I think I already provide the best I can within my ability for a girl and shits happen, I will just move on with life. Life is more than having a relationship. All the best to you bro!!

[Abcdefghijklmn]

Originally Posted by TheSauce

As above,

she forget to logout her gmail on my computer and i curious,

seen the chat log.

feeling hurt now.

----excerpts -----

the mind say wait. but e body say differently n fell aslp.
u must hv tot y I agreed to let u nt wearing condom. firstly I really tot hotel gt provide. lets y I hv been asking ehh hotel really no hv? n since dun hv. I say ok cus I trust u.
I think u also noe I hv been wanting to make love with you. wads stopping me is really cus I noe its wrong but in fact its true in a sense we really alr emotionally wrong n we alr so close and intimate b4 which is no much diff from mking love le.
mking love with you I feel happy and being love n i feel very confortable.

I mk love to you. u say u will be mentally stressed. I noe how u feel. cus u can't promise me anything n we went this way. u think I really at e losing end n scared I will feel more hurt if we really nv end up tgth.
I do agree with that. but Im really ok. I tell myself to ve firm le. I dun wan to see myself to b sad n hurt too. so I mk myself clear that this is wad I chose myself. n from e start I noe u r nt mine. I shouldn't put too much hope in you. I noe ur heart is mine n like I told u.. its really simpleif you put away all e external factors.
I think as long 1 day u still love me, anything can happen. I really m positive one. but on n off I reallly really scared n hv no confidence myself n u will chg heart n love ur gf again. that really to me is end of e story. n I will hv to walk away from your life le.

Like most Bros just said, negative emotions come in first. Sad, upset, angry, furious.

You sit down and think what do you want out from this fiancé and what can she provide in return.

Slowly you weight the pros and cons.

Once you sort out and the pros are more than cons, have an open discussion with her in private, never never in public.

tell her that going to marriage axial require both to be have no secret to make it last. Then ask her if she is hiding any secrets.

If she tell, then find out on the root cause, could it be you causing it etc and try remediate it.

If she did not tell, ask her a couple more times. If still refuse, just be gracious and say that this will be the thing you found out and see her reaction.

Remember, never never use violent or hated words, this will escalate into big fights. I lose my previous gf while in discussion on engagement terms. I became agitated and I lost her permanently. (Nothing is wrong, just a big quarrel).

You are the one who can decide. Should you let go, cause she bound to cheat on you again. Should you not let go and what are the justifications for doing so?

It is common to cheat but something is cooking if the person intend to hide from you.

[JacqueMerlin]

Originally Posted by TheSauce

As above,

she forget to logout her gmail on my computer and i curious,

seen the chat log.

feeling hurt now.

----excerpts -----

the mind say wait. but e body say differently n fell aslp.
u must hv tot y I agreed to let u nt wearing condom. firstly I really tot hotel gt provide. lets y I hv been asking ehh hotel really no hv? n since dun hv. I say ok cus I trust u.
I think u also noe I hv been wanting to make love with you. wads stopping me is really cus I noe its wrong but in fact its true in a sense we really alr emotionally wrong n we alr so close and intimate b4 which is no much diff from mking love le.
mking love with you I feel happy and being love n i feel very confortable.

I mk love to you. u say u will be mentally stressed. I noe how u feel. cus u can't promise me anything n we went this way. u think I really at e losing end n scared I will feel more hurt if we really nv end up tgth.
I do agree with that. but Im really ok. I tell myself to ve firm le. I dun wan to see myself to b sad n hurt too. so I mk myself clear that this is wad I chose myself. n from e start I noe u r nt mine. I shouldn't put too much hope in you. I noe ur heart is mine n like I told u.. its really simpleif you put away all e external factors.
I think as long 1 day u still love me, anything can happen. I really m positive one. but on n off I reallly really scared n hv no confidence myself n u will chg heart n love ur gf again. that really to me is end of e story. n I will hv to walk away from your life le.

The choice is clear. Walk away now.
Don't be clouded by your emotions that logic takes a back seat. She will do it again no matter what she promises if you confront her.

Do you need a distraction? There are many people willing to help. Don't be an idiot to believe that you love her or love will change all our whatever bullshit. Crude but honest, i was in your shoes before. Except that i saw it in her mobile phone.. Never walk my path, i almost committed suicide and I'm glad i didn't.

[Nickochee]

Originally Posted by Starter

Have a good Chat with her and let her knows that you know about it, whether to call off or not is up to you .

Chat?? Whats the point in chatting??? For her to rub in ur face that shes sucking another dick??

Nothing to talk la. Fuck her off n move on. Not only fish in the ocean.

[Bataclan]

Originally Posted by Starter

Have a good Chat with her and .....

ask her wen wanna MMF? After that dump her.

[Starter]

Originally Posted by Nickochee

Chat?? Whats the point in chatting??? For her to rub in ur face that shes sucking another dick??

Nothing to talk la. Fuck her off n move on. Not only fish in the ocean.

well in my trade, I guess I am trained to handle things in a reasonable approached to prevent future complications. any feels I am wrong then I shall apologise. Please take my comment as null.