My Fiance is addicted to SammyBoy

[anmoment]

Hi all,

i recently discovered my fiance of 2 years is constantly on Sammyboyforum.
Constantly means whenever he's not working or with me.
That translate to anytime after 6pm (if he has no OT), till 2am (or when he's sleepy) plus Sat & Sun. He is an extremely HARDCORE Samster.

I am a very good girl and we've never had sex and he understands it.
(Of course, we did kiss n all. Everything but sex.)

My fiance takes care of me, respect me, very very sweet.
I would have NEVER NEVER EVER believe that he has been ACTIVELY looking for casual sex, paid sex, special massages etc...
If it's not because someone told me about it, i might never have discovered it.

Though, my upbringing and religion discourages masturbation or pornography, i do not mind if he does so since he does not have the same beliefs as me. However, i can NEVER ACCEPT my future hubby to visit prostitutes.

[taoxue36]

Hi all,

i recently discovered my fiance of 2 years is constantly on Sammyboyforum.
Constantly means whenever he's not working or with me.
That translate to anytime after 6pm (if he has no OT), till 2am (or when he's sleepy) plus Sat & Sun. He is an extremely HARDCORE Samster.

I am a very good girl and we've never had sex and he understands it.
(Of course, we did kiss n all. Everything but sex.)

My fiance takes care of me, respect me, very very sweet.
I would have NEVER NEVER EVER believe that he has been ACTIVELY looking for casual sex, paid sex, special massages etc...
If it's not because someone told me about it, i might never have discovered it.

Though, my upbringing and religion discourages masturbation or pornography, i do not mind if he does so since he does not have the same beliefs as me. However, i can NEVER ACCEPT my future hubby to visit prostitutes.

1) Can anyone here explain to me how this can happen?

2) Should i marry this man? Or should i break off?

If he promised to change, should i believe him? I do not believe i have the power to change any man especially since he's so hardcore about sex.

3) What will my future be like with him?

4) Why do men pay for sex?

Please do not suggest that we have sex before marriage.
I'm so glad that we didn't, at least now i can leave him and build another relationship with a good man.

Though, i must say that i do not know who to trust anymore.

5) Lastly, if i were your serious girlfriend, fiancee or wife, would you quit doing this if you know exactly how hurt i am?

[pussylovettes]

I do not know how shall I put it but it's time your should have a heart to heart talk. The problem lies on 2 party. That's all I could say.

[taoxue36]

from what i know, he's been like that before meeting me..

[taoxue36]

Originally Posted by pussylovettes

I do not know how shall I put it but it's time your should have a heart to heart talk. The problem lies on 2 party. That's all I could say.

i really dont understand how the problem lies with me?
can u explain?

[owl888]

Doesn't mean he come to this forum to look for sex, same as that u go Geylang doesn't mean u call chicken?

Maybe he oso troubled that his future wife not very nice towards him so he's visited the section called "Matters of the heart" for advice as most troubled poor guy's purpose of visiting SBF?

Since he's a nice guy, takes care of me, respect me, very very sweet......then I think u should trust him coz he's oso an adult. He's got his freedom to do whatever he can during his free time.......

Best u ask him personally, dun listen to hearsay......have a heart to heart talk.

My 4 cents of thoughts!

[Shiny]

Ts, just my 2 cents. It probably means that he values you enough to respect your boundaries and not force you to do anything you don't want to do, and yet not enough to curb his desires and keep his dick to himself. If you marry him, be prepared to have this behaviour of his continue with or without your knowledge or approval.

Ask yourself this. If he is able to provide for you and your future family, play his role well as a husband and father, and if you are able to close one eye to his outside activities, then go ahead and marry him. If not, dump him because a leopard will never change its spots. That's the sad truth.

[deludedgal]

1) Can anyone here explain to me how this can happen?

its in guys nature to be horny and some girls are horny.. some guys are not and so are some girls..

2) Should i marry this man? Or should i break off?

its really up to u... but most men enjoy sex

If he promised to change, should i believe him? I do not believe i have the power to change any man especially since he's so hardcore about sex.

change what? not to surf sammy any more?

3) What will my future be like with him?

He may be wanting sex mostly...

4) Why do men pay for sex?

because they cannot get it from gf,wife and find it bored doing with their SO or their SO do not like sex..

Please do not suggest that we have sex before marriage.
I'm so glad that we didn't, at least now i can leave him and build another relationship with a good man.

Though, i must say that i do not know who to trust anymore.

5) Lastly, if i were your serious girlfriend, fiancee or wife, would you quit doing this if you know exactly how hurt i am?

I am a girl so I would not know.. but i guess all guys can tell u they quit, but secretly stilll come here.. as long as they are not into prostitution, i still think its acceptable to read things here and not get carried away

just my own thoughts.. just want to say the world isn't what we thought it is and many things happen despite us not wanting it to happen. Sometimes truth hurts.. we can live in a veil of rainbows as long as you think everyone is a saint.. or face the fact that humans do err and we try to be the best we can.. hope u will make a choice that will make you happy

[Goodpack]

Originally Posted by taoxue36

Hi all,

i recently discovered my fiance of 2 years is constantly on Sammyboyforum.
Constantly means whenever he's not working or with me.
That translate to anytime after 6pm (if he has no OT), till 2am (or when he's sleepy) plus Sat & Sun. He is an extremely HARDCORE Samster.

I am a very good girl and we've never had sex and he understands it.
(Of course, we did kiss n all. Everything but sex.)

My fiance takes care of me, respect me, very very sweet.
I would have NEVER NEVER EVER believe that he has been ACTIVELY looking for casual sex, paid sex, special massages etc...
If it's not because someone told me about it, i might never have discovered it.

Though, my upbringing and religion discourages masturbation or pornography, i do not mind if he does so since he does not have the same beliefs as me. However, i can NEVER ACCEPT my future hubby to visit prostitutes.

1) Can anyone here explain to me how this can happen?

2) Should i marry this man? Or should i break off?

If he promised to change, should i believe him? I do not believe i have the power to change any man especially since he's so hardcore about sex.

3) What will my future be like with him?

4) Why do men pay for sex?

Please do not suggest that we have sex before marriage.
I'm so glad that we didn't, at least now i can leave him and build another relationship with a good man.

Though, i must say that i do not know who to trust anymore.

5) Lastly, if i were your serious girlfriend, fiancee or wife, would you quit doing this if you know exactly how hurt i am?

TS .... dun be a frog in a well. Go out and get to know the real world as it is... not some sheltered image of life that was planted into your head by the system. I feel it would be better for the 2 of you to go separate ways.... for HIS sake as his future would be ruined with a narrow minded person like you as his wife.

[zeajay]

So why are you here asking us to solve your problem when you do not want him here in the first place? We can't tell him to quit this place for you you know.

[xiaoquan]

1.) Most man does it. get over it. be lesbian?

2.) Up to you, very likely the next better man you meet already fuck countless of ladies before.

3.) no idea.

4.) Cause GF/Wife refuse to provide sex.

5.) I would if i'm serious about the woman that i'm going to marry.

seriously, topic on monogamy have been discussed many times in every part of the world. conclusion, humans, like every living things on earth, don't practice monogamy.

we only do it because of culture, religion and more.... whether or not you want to accept, its up to you.

May i know who is the one who told you about it? He/she might try to sabo your fiance. Since that person know, he/she might have a account too.

[sp150]

Who was the somebody whom told you about it? Related to you? What was the motivation behind?
Would you have preferred your fiancé to do that after you have gotten married? It's better for him to have experienced it all.
As for your question,
1) I think this happens because all men have fantasies.
2) no one is in any position to tell you what to do.
3) we are not fortune tellers we can't tell if he is gonna change for the better or worse. But if these still continues I bet he will be damn bored, but you might become a wild kitten that he never expected.
4) Various reasons. Short term relieve, no gf, lonely etc
5) Well this depends, I don't even know you.

Last of all, you this very good girl is in this forum too. So does that makes you a bad person too. Pls be more matured in your thoughts and don't just jump to conclusion.

Cheers! And chill.

[dreamyguy89]

TS dude, having fun during school holidays?

[HokkienPeng]

Seriously? These type of questions? A man has needs and if you can't provide it he still have to look for madam thumb and her four daughters or some other pussys that will and not yours. He's being respectful by not demanding or forcing you to do it.

Don't be so fucking naive. Sew up your cunt and while you at it, grow an oyster pearl in it.

Just because he comes to sb you want to break it off? Gosh, we are not in the 60s and the world may end in a few days. Cunts like you creates tensions in men that goes out to wage war by not relieving the sexual tensions in them. Call yourself a girlfriend. Pffffff.

[kryptonite123]

Can anyone explain to me how this can happen?

Men in general have the ability to separate love and sex. He may love just one woman (gf/wife) but may have numerous sex partners. I am guessing you are that woman your bf loves, i.e. the one who he sees having a long-term relationship with. I deduce this from the fact you he never demanded sex from you; this shows he respects you. However, your bf, like all other normal men, needs to get his rocks off. Masturbation, though is a way to do so, is nowhere as pleasurable as having sex.

Should I marry this man? Or should I break off?

This question is best left to you to answer.

What will my future be like with him?

Only God knows (if there really is one).

Why do men pay for sex?

It’s convenient and hassle-free. I remember reading somewhere men pay prostitutes not to come, but for them to leave. Men have needs and fantasies and prostitutes can satisfy them. In short, I have a need and she provides the service – no love and emotions involved. I think you are also interested in knowing why men have this tendency to want to have sex with multiple women. In evolution theory, the way a male ensures his genes do not die out is to plant his seeds in as many women as possible.

Lastly, if i were your serious girlfriend, fiancee or wife, would you quit doing this if you know exactly how hurt i am?

Yes, I would. If I love a girl, the last thing I want to do is to hurt her. But then again, this is easier said than done, and I do not have a serious girlfriend/fiancée/wife at the moment. Perhaps those who are in such a situation are in a better position to answer your question.

I really don’t understand how the problem lies with me? Can u explain?

It’s not exactly your problem, but more like a conflict between your values and beliefs and his needs. Your religion forbids you to engage in premarital sex yet your bf needs to satisfy his urges.