Web of Lies and Deceit

[Kimchi1001]

Thanks all!

[simifly]

Sis, care to share how u check on him while u are away?

[Kimchi1001]

I embarked on a fishing expedition again. I know some of you will say … what for? You already know that the guy is cheating on you but I thought to myself, one last proof and that's it!

I pretended to be one of the girls he hooked up with from a year ago. I sent a message supposedly addressed to all my contacts informing them of my new number. Soon enough there was a response from him saying he's been quite busy with work and asked when it was possible to meet. Please note that this happened during the period when things were supposedly okay between us.

Then I thought what if he calls the girl, he will find out that it's a hoax. So I told him that it was a mistake. He said it was a coincidence since he knew someone with the same name. Then I went for the kill. I started flirting with him. Soon enough he was being risqué with his messages and was asking me if we can meet. I baited him some more, reeling him in until I got all the proof I needed. I pretended to be a sexually deprived woman who just wanted to play online. The sexting according to him was so steamy and he has never had anything like that in a long time. Idiot! Of course it was steamy! He was sexting with me. I knew what to say because I knew what buttons to press and what he wanted. He insisted that we should meet but I told him to give me time to think about it as I was in the middle of working out my current relationship. He attempted to call once but I told him not to as my little girl was with me. (this is all part of the story that i put together to make the plot more believable. I don't have a child). In the meantime, the REAL me continued to be the loving gf, not dropping a clue whatsoever that I knew what he has been up to.

One Saturday at 6 in the morning, my alter ego got a message from him asking her if she wants hot sex. He said he just got back and spent the night getting a massage and humping an escort. Mind you, this was the morning after we had dinner and drinks. It's either he went out again after he took me home or he's just portraying himself as the stud. I played along and spent a couple of hours sexting with him. I would on occasion text him from my other number and pretend that all is nice and dandy between us. He got his fix a few times that morning just from sexting with a person he hasn't even met. He sent photos of his privates and asked me to do the same. I told him I could not send mine on that day as it was the time of the month.

With all the evidence I gathered, I took stock of myself and our relationship and made one of the most painful decisions of my life. I know that it is not proper to end a relationship with an email but that's what I did. I did not want to hear his voice again lest I'd be tempted to take him back again. I just sent him a short message telling him that I know the truth and it is over between us. He tried to see me and get in touch with me but I stood my ground and did not budge. I've had enough!

I took a one month holiday traveling and did my version of eat, pray, love. I have since been loving myself and healing a little bit more each day.

Thanks to all of you for reading my long story. I know I have been stupid to have allowed him to hurt me over and over. But hey, we all learn from our mistakes. I am just thankful that I got out of it and have given myself the chance to put my life back together. I hope that by sharing this, people who are going through the same thing will find courage to walk away from toxic relationships and start all over again.

[Kimchi1001]

Originally Posted by pploftheworld

hi Kimchi1001 ,

after reading you post , the guy is not worth your time. the time you took to dug out all those info , wouldnt it be better spent with someone who is worth. i would say that do move on from the guy. all the best !

Hi pploftheworld,

In hindsight, I realised that I did waste time being Sherlock when I knew that he was not worth it but we all do stupid things. I learned my lesson the hard way. Thankfully I am in a much better place now.

[Wintermelontea]

Originally Posted by Kimchi1001

I won't say how I did it (top secret. tricks of the trade :-))

nice and wicked. you are a pro in this.

[Lamborghini]

Originally Posted by Kimchi1001

I realised that I did waste time being Sherlock when I knew that he was not worth it but we all do stupid things. I learned my lesson the hard way. Thankfully I am in a much better place now.

Allow me to share a short story with you.

My ex girlfriend was cheating on me. Obviously, I found out. Here's the best part. Her friends, whom were all females, agreed it was ok to cheat as our relationship was on the rocks. How awesome is that ?

Yes, you should be thankful you are in a better place now. Take care.

[Kimchi1001]

Originally Posted by Wintermelontea

nice and wicked. you are a pro in this.

Hi there,

I actually edited that part. I have shared some tips with someone via pm. :-) Yeah, come to think of it I should have been a private investigator.

Cheers!

[Kimchi1001]

Originally Posted by Lamborghini

Allow me to share a short story with you.

My ex girlfriend was cheating on me. Obviously, I found out. Here's the best part. Her friends, whom were all females, agreed it was ok to cheat as our relationship was on the rocks. How awesome is that ?

Yes, you should be thankful you are in a better place now. Take care.

Hi Lamborghini,

It is not okay to cheat even when your relationship is already shaky. If she wants out then she should have just told you. You know what they say, birds of the same feather flock together. Obviously she and her friends are the same bad species. Sadly there are girls who also behave badly.

Hope you have moved on yourself. Take care.

[simifly]

Originally Posted by Kimchi1001

Hi there,

I actually edited that part. I have shared some tips with someone via pm. :-) Yeah, come to think of it I should have been a private investigator.

Cheers!

So who's that lucky someone?

Thats life, today's failure is to prepare yrself for tomorrow's success.

Make sure u really let go this relationship before u start another.

Cos yr future guy may have a hard time earning yr trust.

Remember not to bring any burden from this failed relationship into yr new one.

Its not fair at all to yr future guy, with his gf peeping at his phone or emails behind him.

If u wan, openly ask him to share yrs and his.

[Sandunes]

she might be one of the CSI team on EDMW. dun play play..

[simifly]

Originally Posted by Sandunes

she might be one of the CSI team on EDMW. dun play play..

Yah, never underestimate woman when they are in heat.

Be it sex or emotions

[Sandunes]

Originally Posted by simifly

Yah, never underestimate woman when they are in heat.

Be it sex or emotions

I wonder if any bros try to pm her to be her new guy.
She ain't no simpleton.

All the best in her new relationship, whoever it is then.

[simifly]

Originally Posted by Sandunes

She ain't no simpleton.

Yah, not a simple lady with this phrase in one of her post in Adult discussion.

TIP: H81 branches in town do not take foreigners but those in the suburbs do.

http://www.sammy.guru/showpos...4&postcount=20

I will be thinking that she's a male chiongster...

Or a lady from Oversea(maybe korea?)

[Sandunes]

Originally Posted by simifly

Yah, not a simple lady with this phrase in one of her post in Adult discussion.

TIP: H81 branches in town do not take foreigners but those in the suburbs do.

http://www.sammy.guru/showpos...4&postcount=20

I will be thinking that u are male chiongster...

My gawd.. most of us are, else we will not be here, we will be in either SGforums or EDMW.
And that post is like.. wow.. i will not dare to try for the first time meeting a stranger. Maybe that's her experience of how she wanted to be treated? lol

Footnote: Dun Drink and Drive.

[karoosel]

Originally Posted by Kimchi1001

I embarked on a fishing expedition again. I know some of you will say … what for? You already know that the guy is cheating on you but I thought to myself, one last proof and that's it!

I pretended to be one of the girls he hooked up with from a year ago. I sent a message supposedly addressed to all my contacts informing them of my new number. Soon enough there was a response from him saying he's been quite busy with work and asked when it was possible to meet. Please note that this happened during the period when things were supposedly okay between us.

Then I thought what if he calls the girl, he will find out that it's a hoax. So I told him that it was a mistake. He said it was a coincidence since he knew someone with the same name. Then I went for the kill. I started flirting with him. Soon enough he was being risqué with his messages and was asking me if we can meet. I baited him some more, reeling him in until I got all the proof I needed. I pretended to be a sexually deprived woman who just wanted to play online. The sexting according to him was so steamy and he has never had anything like that in a long time. Idiot! Of course it was steamy! He was sexting with me. I knew what to say because I knew what buttons to press and what he wanted. He insisted that we should meet but I told him to give me time to think about it as I was in the middle of working out my current relationship. He attempted to call once but I told him not to as my little girl was with me. (this is all part of the story that i put together to make the plot more believable. I don't have a child). In the meantime, the REAL me continued to be the loving gf, not dropping a clue whatsoever that I knew what he has been up to.

One Saturday at 6 in the morning, my alter ego got a message from him asking her if she wants hot sex. He said he just got back and spent the night getting a massage and humping an escort. Mind you, this was the morning after we had dinner and drinks. It's either he went out again after he took me home or he's just portraying himself as the stud. I played along and spent a couple of hours sexting with him. I would on occasion text him from my other number and pretend that all is nice and dandy between us. He got his fix a few times that morning just from sexting with a person he hasn't even met. He sent photos of his privates and asked me to do the same. I told him I could not send mine on that day as it was the time of the month.

With all the evidence I gathered, I took stock of myself and our relationship and made one of the most painful decisions of my life. I know that it is not proper to end a relationship with an email but that's what I did. I did not want to hear his voice again lest I'd be tempted to take him back again. I just sent him a short message telling him that I know the truth and it is over between us. He tried to see me and get in touch with me but I stood my ground and did not budge. I've had enough!

I took a one month holiday traveling and did my version of eat, pray, love. I have since been loving myself and healing a little bit more each day.

Thanks to all of you for reading my long story. I know I have been stupid to have allowed him to hurt me over and over. But hey, we all learn from our mistakes. I am just thankful that I got out of it and have given myself the chance to put my life back together. I hope that by sharing this, people who are going through the same thing will find courage to walk away from toxic relationships and start all over again.

kudos to you, TS! I was/am still in the same boat. Caught my whore monger of a husband and so far has given him a couple of chances already, i do not know if I can forgive him next time. So far he has *been* faithful since I last caught him.. as far as i know. When things would end up falling apart because of his addiction to whores, at least i can tell myself that I tried to hold on to our family. For the sake of my daughter who I do not intend to raise having a cheating father, I will most likely end up leaving him.

Do share some tips with me too, if you may