If you could turn back time, would you still get married?

[jooj]

Even If you could turn back time, you might have taken another path, the outcome will not be what you perceive.

Everything changes with time. Human beings are no exception, driven by greed, attachment, craving….

Your present wife, Husband, bf, gf, bro, sis… might not be the same person ten years down the road.

If mindfulness is sustain on core values throughout. One should be happy to have such partner but the true is most finding it hard to resist the temptation as society moves forward.

[jnudes]

Originally Posted by zan888

Different people are different goals in life. Sounds like you are living your dream. I wish I have luck in stock investments cos all too often, I thank myself that I have a day job :P.

I think statistically it is healthier to be in a relationship, but which girl will let you drag her infinitum w/o the prospects of marriage? It's kinda tiring to find one gf after another and truth be told, hard to find someone whom you can relate to, communicate, love and feels the same way about you?

With stock investments there are some risk involved. With a day job there are also risk too. The company can suddenly gone bankrupt and the next day you lose the job! The most stable is probably working for the govt.

I was in relationship before but broken up. Yes I am tired to find new gf again. So far I can feel being single is not really that bad at all. You get 100% freedom and not being controlled by others. You do the things you want and no need to worry what others say behind your back for being single.

[topcook1]

Originally Posted by jnudes

With stock investments there are some risk involved. With a day job there are also risk too. The company can suddenly gone bankrupt and the next day you lose the job! The most stable is probably working for the govt.

I was in relationship before but broken up. Yes I am tired to find new gf again. So far I can feel being single is not really that bad at all. You get 100% freedom and not being controlled by others. You do the things you want and no need to worry what others say behind your back for being single.

True. After my divorce and few broken relationship, I have starts to enjoy single hood. I do appreciate it very much because I dont have any more burden or time to care for others. No need to report situation and location liaoz.....Just a minor loneliness only . I find that loneliness is better to have a wrong partner. As for sex I just pay and let go with no string attached.

[I Love Boobs]

I recently lost my job.
To add to that, my fat wife of 10 years left me to have an affair with a 70 year old man, and became his sugarbaby. Her parents knew about it and covered it up, said I was useless and cannot earn money, useless man who cannot support family.
We have 2 children, and I've been threatened hurt if I see them again.
I'm broke, in poor health, and have lost my family.....
Suicide is a consideration, but for my supportive parents.
And my wife seemed like the loving kind at the start, I would never have known.....

[MrDebonair]

有爱就有痛.我爱过火也痛过漠。

One has to go thru love & pain,fail & tries in order to truly appreciate his single hood after.

[Captainoceania77]

Originally Posted by I Love Boobs

I recently lost my job.
To add to that, my fat wife of 10 years left me to have an affair with a 70 year old man, and became his sugarbaby. Her parents knew about it and covered it up, said I was useless and cannot earn money, useless man who cannot support family.
We have 2 children, and I've been threatened hurt if I see them again.
I'm broke, in poor health, and have lost my family.....
Suicide is a consideration, but for my supportive parents.
And my wife seemed like the loving kind at the start, I would never have known.....

Sounds bad....hope u are alright bro. Marriage is just a bad investment.

[HCKing]

should set a time frame of maybe 10 yrs. i bet the answer will be no for many.

[torrentman123]

Originally Posted by jnudes

I am self-employed and currently investing in stocks. One good thing about this is I can have my own flexibility and manage my time more easily compared to when you work for others. On my day to day life I live independently by going to exercise alone and luckily I stay with parents and yes being filial is part of every children's duty. The only thing being single that I hate is when I get sick and stay in bed whole day. No choice but need to be careful what I eat plus regular exercise to keep me healthy.

Then what do you do for "release"?
Or emotional intimacy?

[jnudes]

Originally Posted by torrentman123

Then what do you do for "release"?
Or emotional intimacy?

I do DIY masturbation after watching porn. I still go out for FJ once in a while to unload stress. If there is no FJ involved I will still go for massage without HJ. That's good for detoxification inside body. Emotional intimacy only exist during the FJ session only. Other than that I have none.

[Ngengheng]

[Ngengheng]

Nowadays it seems that Singlehood getting more popular. Notice that there are more single . Guys are seems to be smarter now.

[Jevv]

Originally Posted by Ngengheng

Nowadays it seems that Singlehood getting more popular. Notice that there are more single . Guys are seems to be smarter now.

is it?? wat i noticed is there r more pregnant & married women ard leh...

[Xia406]

Originally Posted by cmelater

This wasnt new to me. To know a person, its important to know her surrounding family, friends and et etc kaki. Feathers of a bird flock together. If you want to find a swan, you have to look for that gathering of swans. If you want to find a hungry, look for that pack of wolves on the hunt. If u wan a cheongster gf, go to a club or nite spot.

The point is that the places where she hang out at will also be somewhat indicative of the person she really is. At least, this is what i think it is. Cheers

These are the golden words of wisdom.

[cmelater]

Originally Posted by Xia406

These are the golden words of wisdom.

And..... The more we fall the faster we learn. Ironically, these are best appreciated as we fall more often.

A friend told me he fell for a wl. I looked at him with my eyes wide open. Do we know what we want? And, there were too many questions i felt were not clearly answered.

Is it love or lust? Or is loneliness of the mind or yearnings of the heart? If its lust and loneliness, money can solve both. And, if its not this gal, the next can be just as good or better.

Love and yearnings of the heart are of course much tougher to handle. If this is the case, no one knows who is the one. The one today may be more real than the previous or more fake than the next. If the heart is a creature with a mind of its own, it must be quite a confusing creature.

Fate brings two persons together, but the heart decides who gets to stay.

[newhere]

Well, you would have to turn back time quite a fair bit for it to have much effect on your marriage.

Marriage isn't a new discovery; it's been going on for thousands of years. Has our ancestors solved the problems arising from marriage? Judging from the negligible divorce rates of our grandparents, I'd say mostly yes. Unfortunately, our gramps enjoyed the obedient, stay-in-kitchen, virgin, conservative, respectful fruits grown by our ancestors, yet they created a society that provided their grandsons with empowered, princessy, ambitious, feminazis who won't give birth to children.

So, what is a disillusioned son of Singapore to do? Go back to basics. Virgin, obedient, domesticated SYT. The (3rd) world is your oyster. For the more immobile (i.e. stuck in Singapore), perhaps joining a religious organization that has a heavily conservative slant that worships marriage.